Jealousy: An Evolutionary Miscalculation

Jealousy: An Evolutionary Miscalculation

Perspective by Dr. Mike Abrams Humans have evolved sophisticated, non-conscious mechanisms to detect infidelity, as well as methods to deal with a partner’s potential betrayal.…

The Elegant Solution: How to Live Without a Self-Image

The Elegant Solution: How to Live Without a Self-Image

We have spent the last few articles deconstructing the “self-esteem trap.” We’ve seen how the quest for worth leads to an emotional roller coaster, behavioral…

The Anxiety Sabotage: Why You’re Afraid to Try New Things

The Anxiety Sabotage: Why You’re Afraid to Try New Things

Introduction If the pursuit of self-esteem were truly beneficial, the most successful and talented people should be the most fearless. Yet, we often see the…

The Dark Side of Pride: From Self-Esteem to Self-Damnation

The Dark Side of Pride: From Self-Esteem to Self-Damnation

Introduction We are often told that pride is a virtue, that taking pride in our work or our character is the hallmark of a healthy,…

The Treadmill of Achievement: Why Your Success Never Lasts

The Treadmill of Achievement: Why Your Success Never Lasts

Introduction Is there an “ultimate” success? Many people spend their entire lives believing that attaining a specific position, a CEO chair, a medical degree, or…

The Self-Esteem Trap: Why Chasing Worth Makes Us Unhappy

The Self-Esteem Trap: Why Chasing Worth Makes Us Unhappy

Introduction Twenty years ago, advice for an unhappy person would have been simple: “Stop dwelling on your own misfortune. Try instead to become creatively absorbed…

Can Love Survive Infidelity? A Clinical Approach to Healing

Can Love Survive Infidelity? A Clinical Approach to Healing

Infidelity is often viewed as the ultimate betrayal, a catastrophic event that marks the end of a relationship. Yet, in clinical practice, we find that…

The Quest for Stability: When Status and Infidelity Collide

The Quest for Stability: When Status and Infidelity Collide

While some individuals use infidelity as a deliberate exit strategy, others find themselves drawn into affairs as a response to external crises. In clinical practice,…

The Illusion of Choice: When Infidelity Becomes an Exit Strategy

The Illusion of Choice: When Infidelity Becomes an Exit Strategy

Infidelity is rarely just a singular moment of weakness. In clinical practice, we often observe a phenomenon that goes beyond simple impulsivity. It is a…

Is Monogamy a Myth? The Evolutionary Psychology Behind Infidelity

Is Monogamy a Myth? The Evolutionary Psychology Behind Infidelity

When we enter a romantic relationship, most of us share the same goal: to find a partner for life. However, statistics are relentless—approximately half of…